In some research we were involved in a few years ago, we found a couple of interesting things out about people who were voted as very mentally tough by folks who understood their world.
First thing was that mentally tough people had confidence that didn’t break down easily – it wasn’t necessarily very, very high confidence, but was more characterised as robust. Any thoughts about how robust your confidence is (confidence in your own abilities!)?
The other interesting thing about the mentally tough folks was that they always thought the team would perform better if they were around, because they knew what qualities they bought to any team they were on. If they weren’t there, these obvious qualities would be missing, so the team wouldn’t have their undoubted strengths to draw upon. So, why is your team better off because you’re part of it and are you maximising the benefits of you being around right now?
If you’re going to be mentally tough, you have to invest some time working out how to make your confidence robust and how to ensure you’re valuing the difference you make to people. There’s more to it than that, but those were two highlight points that seem pertinent right now!